Dating in the dark television
"All the characters were so relatable." But recent seasons of MTV's pioneer reality show focus mostly on drinking, partying, fake work environments and late-night hook-ups.
She also enjoys , a three-hour candid set of unaired scenes where houseguests talk, argue, or just do everyday activities in the house.
Jason Mesnick also shocked audiences earlier in 2009 by changing his mind after the season finale, switching out Melissa for Molly as his true love."I just really hope that reality TV doesn't become the last bastion of entertainment …
I would love to think that, like everything else – the pet rock, the hula hoop – the entertainment value of reality TV is going to dwindle." Perl-Raver would rather see a resurgence in scripted television, acknowledging that's hard during a recession.
She spoke with me recently about her televised dating experience and had some insightful comments on reality TV today, how it got here, and where it should head next.
Perl-Raver admits that she had her own reasons for appearing on , in which each episode, three men and three women get acquainted in complete darkness before selecting a suitable match to see in the light.
I wanted to make him stop," she says."Everybody had to be boiled down to the minutiae of what people best fit into," says Perl-Raver.
"They didn't talk about any of the nuances in their personality.""I had to ask myself, is that the person I really am or is that just how they're portraying me? Chris eventually hoped Jennifer, who was portrayed as a fit, athletic girl, would ‘join him on the balcony' – the contestants' way to signal a mutual match – but all three women chose to leave the house without meeting Chris. Sasha says none of the women were attracted to him, but the episode made it look like they had tough decisions to make and plenty of confrontation to deal with."It really bothered me that they made it seem like the girls were against each other,' says Perl-Raver. We laughed so hard that the producers yelled at us for having too much fun."Perl-Raver also commented on how tried to manufacture emotional and physical conditions to heighten to the probability of dramatic moments and entertaining television."It's psychological warfare when you're doing a reality show," she adds.
So what reality TV does , she says "That's a great reality show, because the rules are laid out and people know what they're getting into.""The Real World started as a brilliant documentary," she adds.Perl-Raver believes reality television has an opportunity to illuminate some of the more truthful sides of life – details about real people, real feelings, and real situations.I asked Perl-Raver what she thinks about ultimate question, is love blind? "The only love that's truly blind is between a parent and their child.She's writing a book on dating and wanted to put herself in as many situations as possible, including reality TV, speed dating and more traditional ways of finding that special someone.She wasn't the only contestant with another agenda."Everyone had ulterior motives," says Perl-Raver.They want attractive people who are comfortable in front of a camera." She believes only one person in her episode was truly looking to meet someone without writing or the entertainment industry as added benefits.But ulterior motives or not, Perl-Raver and five other singles entered the house to mix and mingle for three long days."The producers made sure they had something interesting for an hour of television," she says."We weren't really fed – we had frozen food and dry goods." She specifically mentions Red Bull and Frosted Flakes."We also drank (alcohol) the least of any other cast," she says, indicating the producers were hoping otherwise."You're sequestered, you're disconnected from your family and your support system," she says. We all were losing our mind."So it's no surprise that scandals emerge from the depths of reality TV.contestant, allegedly murdered his model ex-wife before committing suicide, months after moving to Los Angeles to film the reality match-making contest.So where do these extreme contestants and situations come from?